First of all, congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby. There were things that I did not know what to expect with the birth of my first baby and I wanted to write a letter to the mom of a newborn (but also to myself for baby #2) for things to remember (some of these may be TMI but I feel like the new mom would like to know).
I just want you to know, things in the first 6 weeks are going to be tough, enjoyable, but tough. Things feel like they are never going to get back to normal. Your body feels all sorts of crazy physically as well as emotionally. I wanted to let you know some of the things that I went through and remind you that it shall pass and return back to "normal". This letter was actually my husband's idea and I thought that it was genius. I am going to print it and tuck it with my maternity clothes for when our next child is going to be born.
Remember, your hormones will get back to normal and you will feel like yourself again.
2. The pain seems like it is never going to end. I had pain from my episiotomy for 1 whole month. The first week or two, sitting down ranged from hard to impossible. I remember, I was at my dad's work for a pizza lunch and sat down too quick in a chair and cried from the horrible pain.
Remember, soon, the pain will be gone and you will feel back to normal! Hang in there.
Hang in there! Breastfeeding is so good for you and your baby. Do not give up mama! Also, go see a lactation consultant if you are having issues (I saw one and it was very beneficial!).
4. You will spend time alone with your spouse again. In the beginning, even though Troy and I were seeing each other everyday, it felt like we never had any time just the two of us. After about 6 weeks when we started getting Adalyn to bed earlier, we finally had couple time again which feels great.
Hang in there these first 6 weeks. Remember that things will get fairly back to normal as a couple. Also, always make time for your spouse. I believe that a strong, healthy marriage is a fundamental part of parenting.
Remember that in the beginning, you are more in survival mode and this is okay. The time will come that you will feel normal again. My tip is to try to sneak in a bit of time for yourself so that you feel somewhat like yourself as soon as possible.
6. The days fly by- When Adalyn was 10 days old, I remember crying when Troy came home from work his first day back because I could not get the whole house cleaned (hello crazy hormones- see #1). You just cannot do it all. Remember that your number one priority is your baby. The rest can wait. It doesn't really matter if your house is not perfect, etc. Enjoy time with your little one and hold and love them lots.
At 7 weeks old right now, I feed Adalyn at 8:30 before I go to bed, Troy feeds her a pumped bottle at ~11:30 and then I feed her when she wakes up 1x/night (anywhere from 3-5 AM) and then of course first thing in the morning when we wake up. I am getting pretty good sleep now.
If you can just make it through this tough period, I promise you, things will get better and easier. You will start to feel like you are in a groove and got this mom thing down. You will feel normal again.
Enjoy this period because everyday, they change so much. Most of all hang in there, you are doing a great job.
A new mom who is starting to figure a few things out (maybe)